Have you been conned?
Like many men, you may have been conned by the Old Rule Book (and the family you grew up in) to behave in certain ways. Like any con, it loses its power once it’s exposed. Once you see the situation for what it is you are in a strong position to make other choices – that is… the choice to make a change!
Human nature is a tricky thing because it invites you (wants you) to act in the same ways and do the same things to resolve a problem. What this does, is gets you stuck even more. When you understand where your patterns of behaviour come from and what around you is supporting these behaviours, you’re in a good position to rewrite your own story.
The Old Rule Book was made up of the following ideas…
The Traditional Man’s Old Rule Book
Real men are tireless, invincible and keep working regardless of the personal or health risks. (In reality real men die early of heart attacks, lung cancer, alcoholism, strokes… Not too invincible now right?).
Writing a New Rule Book is a huge challenge, but one that you, like many other men, are capable of taking on. The New Rule Book is very different in that it is based on being powerful alongside others, not at the expense of others. It embodies recognising what you and others have to offer, giving equal weight to each story.
A New Rule Book would look something like this:
Ken McMaster (MSW Hons, CQSW, MANZASW) has a thirty year history working at the cutting edge of intervention work with men who are violent and who sexually abuse.
Suzi Hall (M.A. Psych) has a background of working in child protection and forensic interviewing of children with Child Youth and Family Services.
Matt Williams (BTcLn, NCALNE) has a 15 year history working within the social service and criminal justice sectors as a trainer and program developer.