Most men grow up with this crazy idea that everyone, partners and children included, shares the same views of the world as them.
It is hard to risk stepping outside of our ‘manly’ culture to see what things are like from other people’s perspectives or cultures – in this case the perspective and culture of women.
To prove this point simply ask yourself the following question...
“Would you put up with your behaviour if you were on the receiving end of it?”
Unanimously, men respond, “No way!” Yet men have a sense of entitlement, a belief that others can live with and accept the effects of their unacceptable behaviour. The people on the receiving end, the victim or victims, often have feelings of being trapped and will often try a range of strategies to cope with the abuse.
Lee Bowker lists the ways women try to keep themselves safe…
Watch the media clip above and answer the following questions...
Ken McMaster (MSW Hons, CQSW, MANZASW) has a thirty year history working at the cutting edge of intervention work with men who are violent and who sexually abuse.
Suzi Hall (M.A. Psych) has a background of working in child protection and forensic interviewing of children with Child Youth and Family Services.
Matt Williams (BTcLn, NCALNE) has a 15 year history working within the social service and criminal justice sectors as a trainer and program developer.